Wife

Substitute: gossiping for bragging

15/10/2012 , 0 Mrs Hill

For a smart woman like you, it is so easy to see other people’s mistakes and weaknesses.

In a way, though, it’s better than when Irene and her friends talked about me behind my back

And because you live with your husband for so long, you know him very well, sometimes too well. You know his weak spots and you heard his joke millions of times, it is so easy to degrade to criticizing your husband. Both in private and in public. Both subtly (by not listening) and not so subtly (by sulking and giving him silent treatment)

The best strategy still is “joking” about his habits in front of your friends and family. You would have never used these sarcastic jokes in a conversation with a colleague or friend, but husband, come on, he knows you are just joking. Only closest people can hurt us the most. These harmless jokes or habit to tune out when he talks at a party is a great way to alienation in the family and subsequent divorce.

One of the couples I knew, started from these “jokes”, continued with the biggest fight that brought up everything, including the fact that she never turned off the taps fully and that he was never closing the toilet lid, then followed nasty divorce involving court and lawyers. That left both of them scarred and with a big hole in budget because of lawyers’ fees.

It is so much easier and more productive to show love and appreciation. Start bragging.

Laugh like crazy at his jokes, brag to everybody about his achievements at work or at home.

Tell your mother how happy you are being next to this man. Tell your friends the story on how great your husband is with your children. More importantly, tell your children that daddy is a superhero and is amazing.

Brag, brag, brag. In public and in private. Subtly and not subtly. Brag to everybody you meet on your way today, tomorrow… every day.

Start being your husband’s best fan. Raving fan that will do anything for the hero. You are a team after all and if your husband feels supported and happy, he will achieve more and more for you and your family.

He put in a new shelf? Tell your parents.

He got a promotion. Brag to the whole world about it.

He spent 2 hours with children and everybody survived. Tell your friends.

I was thinking of putting the disclosure with the advice to be reasonable and not tiresome but I have never met anyone who was tiresome in raving about husband. Women are usually immersed in children, not husbands.

So lavish him with all your love.