Warning: your Ex might still be around
Have you ever thought of your ex while being married?
No? Weird. A lot of women do.
You are dating this wonderful guy. He proposes to you, the dreams come true. The wedding is terrific and then …the life happens.
Couple of months after the wedding you start thinking and then realize that he forgets about things that are important to you, your husband is messy and you start missing the dating times when you used to live separately and have a choice and freedom to see each other or not.
It seems you both were so much happier.
You start thinking, maybe you have married the wrong man and maybe you should have married the ex-boyfriend. Sometimes you even start having dreams about ex-boyfriend. Your brain is comparing and contemplating. You might even stalk your ex-boyfriend on Facebook to find out whether he is still available.
You start asking yourself questions like: maybe I should have waited some more? Maybe he is just not my man? Maybe my mum and friends were right after all?
These little questions give you that numbing feeling of doubt and failure. These doubts slowly but surely start “eating” your marriage.
Consciously or subconsciously you give away your line of thinking and the man reacts by giving up, anyway he can’t keep you happy so he does just enough in order not to cheese you off but escapes you as soon as he gets a chance.
He has a lot of options: computer games, TV, gambling, hobbies, porno, friends, lover. Some of them are more constructive than others, in any case these options are more rewarding then spending time with the wife who is not happy and has doubts about him.
You are not happy, he is not happy. But romance and passion is only for students and immigrants, right? And you have settled together already, you have mortgage, children and pets. It is just not worth thinking about it all. You have obviously chosen the wrong man, but it is too late.
If you find yourself in this situation, it is time to go back to basics.
It is time to change your husband right now. How? Find out here.
It is time to re-discover your best friend.
Don’t let your ex in your marriage! Commit to your man fully.